Dating in New York City Update

So it’s been about three months since I gave a guy my number and a few things have happened.

He eventually texted me and we went out to a bar to watch a Rangers game. I honestly had a great time. We talked for about 2 hours and barely paid attention to the game. A second date was discussed and happened but that’s kind of where it went downhill. You’d think that by cheering for the same sports teams, things would be great but he wasn’t feeling it. Honestly, him telling me flat out that he didn’t feel a “romantic spark” was totally fine. I’d rather a guy be upfront than drag out the process.

The experience of getting back out there and dating was a bit nerve wrecking but taught me a lot. I just need to relax and be myself. My guy friend Mike basically tells me that on a daily basis as I freak out over how to text a guy back. I’ve talked to a few guys here and there but nothing really happened.

At this point, I’m basically not feeling the whole dating thing. I attempted to join Match.com and that lasted all of 12 months. Set up was super easy but then they wanted me to pay $130 upfront, for 6 months of usage. Umm, no thank you! While everything was clean and easy to use, their whole “Match Guarantee” seemed a little to sketchy for me. Basically if you don’t match with someone they’ll give you another 6 months for free, as long as they determine everything is valid. As someone who is super picky, that’s not a lot of reassurance. Sorry, bye!

I then decided to check out OKCupid, which hasn’t really been a priority for me. I scan it every few days and of course get the creep messages from guys. Is it necessary to start a convo with “Hey gorgeous?” Cut that crap out.

For now, I’m just using Bumble. Yeah, figured I call out the app I’ve been using for several months now. It has it’s ups and downs but I like it since I don’t need to dedicate a significant amount of time to it. But one note to guys, if you swipe yes and the girl messages you, answer her back! Stop wasting our time!

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Finding Myself Again…

A few months ago, I was basically dumped for the first time ever. I won’t get into the messy details but one of my girlfriends asked when was the last time I went out and what happened to the fun Brittany who would go out and get drinks several nights a week. It was then I realized that over the past three years I had lost myself. For those wondering, it’s been two years since I went out and had a great time without a care in the world and I just cant hang multiple nights a week anymore. Sad I know.

Well these past couple of months, I’ve made it a mission to find me again. It’s definitely not something that I’ve accomplished 100% but any amount of me is good. Honestly, I’m not even sure where to begin but somewhere along the way, I started going to trivia nights with friends and even joined dating apps. So far I’ve matched with at least 20 guys on one of the apps and have had about 5 conversations. Not a bad ratio but seriously guys, why say you’re interested and not answer a message? (Serious question.)

This past week, I actually matched with someone who not only lives in my area of the city, but is really cute. (Rose agrees.) At first I just thought here goes another conversation that will go nowhere but he asked for my number! My best friend just happened to be over and she of course encouraged me to give it to him. So far, I haven’t received a text but it’s only been two day. Definitely having a Clueless moment a la “Christian said he’d call the next day, but in boy time that meant Thursday.”

Since this is a new venture in my life, I wanted to share all the deets and hopefully get some advice. It’s also pretty timely since my good friend, Jessica Lawlor, recently asked me to provide my insights into dating as a single woman living in such a large city. Definitely check out the post and if you have any suggestions for me as I enter the dating world again, please share!

So for now, here’s to…

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