Dating in New York City Update

So it’s been about three months since I gave a guy my number and a few things have happened.

He eventually texted me and we went out to a bar to watch a Rangers game. I honestly had a great time. We talked for about 2 hours and barely paid attention to the game. A second date was discussed and happened but that’s kind of where it went downhill. You’d think that by cheering for the same sports teams, things would be great but he wasn’t feeling it. Honestly, him telling me flat out that he didn’t feel a “romantic spark” was totally fine. I’d rather a guy be upfront than drag out the process.

The experience of getting back out there and dating was a bit nerve wrecking but taught me a lot. I just need to relax and be myself. My guy friend Mike basically tells me that on a daily basis as I freak out over how to text a guy back. I’ve talked to a few guys here and there but nothing really happened.

At this point, I’m basically not feeling the whole dating thing. I attempted to join Match.com and that lasted all of 12 months. Set up was super easy but then they wanted me to pay $130 upfront, for 6 months of usage. Umm, no thank you! While everything was clean and easy to use, their whole “Match Guarantee” seemed a little to sketchy for me. Basically if you don’t match with someone they’ll give you another 6 months for free, as long as they determine everything is valid. As someone who is super picky, that’s not a lot of reassurance. Sorry, bye!

I then decided to check out OKCupid, which hasn’t really been a priority for me. I scan it every few days and of course get the creep messages from guys. Is it necessary to start a convo with “Hey gorgeous?” Cut that crap out.

For now, I’m just using Bumble. Yeah, figured I call out the app I’ve been using for several months now. It has it’s ups and downs but I like it since I don’t need to dedicate a significant amount of time to it. But one note to guys, if you swipe yes and the girl messages you, answer her back! Stop wasting our time!

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Finding Myself Again…

A few months ago, I was basically dumped for the first time ever. I won’t get into the messy details but one of my girlfriends asked when was the last time I went out and what happened to the fun Brittany who would go out and get drinks several nights a week. It was then I realized that over the past three years I had lost myself. For those wondering, it’s been two years since I went out and had a great time without a care in the world and I just cant hang multiple nights a week anymore. Sad I know.

Well these past couple of months, I’ve made it a mission to find me again. It’s definitely not something that I’ve accomplished 100% but any amount of me is good. Honestly, I’m not even sure where to begin but somewhere along the way, I started going to trivia nights with friends and even joined dating apps. So far I’ve matched with at least 20 guys on one of the apps and have had about 5 conversations. Not a bad ratio but seriously guys, why say you’re interested and not answer a message? (Serious question.)

This past week, I actually matched with someone who not only lives in my area of the city, but is really cute. (Rose agrees.) At first I just thought here goes another conversation that will go nowhere but he asked for my number! My best friend just happened to be over and she of course encouraged me to give it to him. So far, I haven’t received a text but it’s only been two day. Definitely having a Clueless moment a la “Christian said he’d call the next day, but in boy time that meant Thursday.”

Since this is a new venture in my life, I wanted to share all the deets and hopefully get some advice. It’s also pretty timely since my good friend, Jessica Lawlor, recently asked me to provide my insights into dating as a single woman living in such a large city. Definitely check out the post and if you have any suggestions for me as I enter the dating world again, please share!

So for now, here’s to…

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Learning How to “Leave Your Mark”

Earlier this year, Aliza Licht released her much anticipated book, Leave Your Mark. If you’ve never heard of Aliza, well currently, she is the SVP of Global Communications at Donna Karan International (Licht recently announced she is leaving DKI) and up until recently, the voice behind @dkny. Bet you follow the account, right? Well, then you were talking to Aliza, who really knows how to engage with followers!

I don’t remember exactly when I started following @dkny but I immediately loved how the handle was responding to tweets and not focusing solely on fashion. Now at this time, no one knew who was actually behind the Twitter handle but it was great to just follow along during red carpet events and even while watching some of my favorite shows like Revenge, Scandal and How to Get Away with Murder. Then in 2011, the identity behind @dkny was revealed on the DKKNY PR Girl Tumblr. Everyone was excited to finally find out the person behind the curtain, but let’s fast forward to May 2015.

Leave Your Mark

After years of working in the PR business and moving up in the ranks, Licht shared with the world her tips and tricks to leaving your mark and killing it in your career. I couldn’t wait for my copy to arrive and dive right in. Yeah, I have a job but really you should never stop learning and I was intrigued to read what Licht had to say. As someone who frequently networks as an alumnae for my university, I just made sense for me to see how someone with more experience views the daunting task of landing an interview, rocking it in your career and just building up your overall brand.

In writing Leave Your Mark, Licht brings in her personal experiences, from changing majors to internships to becoming the person hiring. Personally, I honestly believe this helps in showing the reader that anything is possible, all you need to do is find your passion, set goals and have focus. She hits on important topics like “Writing a Killer Cover Letter and Rock-Solid Resumé,” “Going for the Promotion and the Raise,” “Surviving People and Politics,” “Being Socially Savvy,” and “Being Your Own Publicist,” all must-knows for getting ahead in your career. Also, one important thing that I noticed was that in a time where social media is EVERYWHERE, Licht knew she couldn’t fall behind on the happenings. I mean, she ran a successfully popular Twitter account and no one knew it was her! Girl knows how to keep a secret! For someone in her position, it was like a breath of fresh air to see someone in a VP role, just get social.

Overall, I agreed with what Licht brought to the table and recommend that everyone pick up a copy. You don’t even need to work in PR because the skill sets in Leave Your Mark can apply in any industry.

Hi There, Remember Us?

Hi everyone!

We’re so sorry for the lack of updates. Rose is currently out in Ohio preparing for her move back home. Don’t leave NY!!! And me, well I’m completely consumed by the Stanley Cup Finals. Go Rangers!!

The weather is also getting better so I’ve definitely been enjoying the nice weather. If you didn’t know already, I’m a total summer girl. I LOVE the warm weather and the fact that I don’t have to wear pants. Rose loves the whole not wearing pants thing too.

As things start to settle down, we’ll have more posts coming your way very soon! I’m actually working on another book review and heading to Buffalo in two weeks for the first time.

Talk soon! – B

The Struggle is Real: Allergies #WipeForWater

One day, in the spring of 2008, I thought I was going to literally scratch my eyeballs out of their sockets. For probably an entire day, I couldn’t figure out what was wrong with me and then a light bulb went on. It was ALLERGIES!

Thankfully I had some eye drops but over the years my allergies have only gotten worse. Depending on the year, sometimes I can get through the seasons changing without the feeling that I’m dying. Well this season change has been absolute hell so far.

Yesterday, from the moment I stepped outside, I knew it was going to be a bad day. Mother Nature decided to have a full on wind storm causing the pollen on the ground to swirl all around me. Needless to say, I felt absolutely gross and wanted to take a shower immediately. Unfortunately, I had to go to work but remembered my Neutrogena Naturals wipes from Influenster!!

Influenster VoxBox

I’m super familiar with Neutrogena’s facial wipes for removing make up and used these wipes for that purpose when they first arrived. But realized they could also be used for getting the pollen off my face! The cooling felt great since I felt like I was dying my entire commute to work. Let’s just say I would TOTALLY recommend Neutrogena Naturals for not only make up removal but also during allergy season. What a total life saver and my new favorite allergy season product!! Definitely adding it to my allergy season survival kit which already includes Zyrtec, tissues and Advil.

Neutrogena Naturals

But back to the real reason I have these Neutrogena Natruals wipes. Influenster sent them so I could take #WipeForWater challenge. For at least three days, I was asked to stop using water to clean my face and use Neutrogena Naturals instead. When I started wearing make up I used oily serums that I hated, therefore I stopped wearing make up as much. About two or three years ago, I came across Neutrogena’s make up removing wipes and fell in love. They’re honestly really great for sensitive skin. My #VoxBox arrived a few weeks ago and I was excited to try the latest from Neutrogena and totally made an effort to wear make up on a regular basis. Sometimes I wake up at the 11th hour. Overall, I saw a different in my skin and felt great. The smell and feeling was a game changer and I’d recommend everyone make the switch.

Going along with the typical “I’m a millennial stereotype,” I love when companies use their pull to promote social good. For every mention on social media with #WipeForWater, Neutrogena will contribute $1 to The Nature conservancy to support water conservation, up to $50,00. How great is that?! So next time you’re picking up make up remover, keep Neutrogena Naturals in mind!

I received Neutrogena Naturals from Influenster for free and all opinions are my own.

Book Review: Big Little Lies

If you couldn’t tell from my last book review, I really enjoy a good murder mystery book. Based on the summary and recommendations from friends, I knew I had to pick up Big Little Lies by Liane Moriarty.

The story, which takes place in Australia, opens on the night of the murder which occurs during a trivia night fundraiser.

Credit: Goodreads

Credit: Goodreads

Moriarty doesn’t revel too much but let’s the reader know a murder has taken place and there is complete pandemonium as the local police try to figure out what actually happened. We even get statements from various parents attending the event at the end of each chapter.

To totally through you off, the story jumps back several months to Kindergarten orientation day. New to town, Jane, a young mother with a son named Ziggy, runs into a fellow mother, Madeline, who is on her way to the same orientation with her daughter Chloe. Madeline injured her ankle (on her 40th birthday of all days!) and Jane graciously helps her, making the two instant friends. Once the pair arrive at Pirriwee Public School, it becomes glaringly obvious that Jane is much younger than the other mothers.

While the children are at orientation, Madeline and Jane go to a local coffee shop where they are joined by Celeste, another mother who has twin boys, Max and Josh. Jane and Celeste quickly learn the school politics and the three basically agree to stick together all year. The three learn some more about each other, like Madeline’s ex-husband’s daughter is also attending Pirriwee, Jane is raising Ziggy on her own and Celeste’s husband is constantly traveling on business. As the story continues, Moriarty dives deeper into each woman.

Upon arriving back at the school, Ziggy is accused of injuring another little girl, who’s mother of course is not exactly friendly with Madeline. As a result the lines between parents become drawn and the school kind of takes off from there. Ziggy and Jane become subject to petitions from parents trying to get him expelled and even though she has her own stuff going on Madeline is quick to step up and defend her friend. Additionally, Ziggy is almost at that age of wanting to know his father, a man Jane had a one-night stand with and she’s not even close to letting herself go there with a five year old. She does confide in both Madeline and Jane who are of course sympathetic to the entire situation.

Madeline’s teenage daughter Abigail, whom she raised alone, has started to rebel and doesn’t exactly see eye-to-eye anymore with her mother. Abigail now thinks her step-mother Bonnie is such a role model and starts to emulate her qualities, right down to advocating rights of women and become vegan. Madeline is not too pleased with these developments, especially since her ex-husband decided to start a new family and live in the same town, but grudgingly lets Abigail move-in with her father. I felt as though this change needed to happen in Madeline’s life so she could see things and people a little differently. Her opinion about several parents, including her ex-husband’s wife changes for the better.

Now for Celeste. It’s really true what they say, you never know what goes on behind closed doors. Unfortunately for Celeste, her what looks like a perfect marriage is anything but. Her husband, who is frequently traveling for work, hits her and for silly reasons. Of course he swears every time it’ll never happen again and buys expensive things to make Celeste happy, but that peace only lasts for a few weeks, if that. It takes a lot, but Celeste finds the strength to finally talk to someone and starts to plan a life with her twins alone in a small apartment. Sadly for Celeste, her husband finds out the night of the fundraiser and that’s when all of the secrets start to come out…even which child is actually the Kindergarten bully!

But wait, who dies? I can’t tell you that. I’m sure you’re thinking one thing, I know I was while reading, but Big Little Lies provides for one huge twist you won’t see coming. If you love a really good page tuner, this is the book for you!! By the last 50 pages or so, my jaw was basically on the floor but all the developments. Moriarty doesn’t disappoint and I hear her other books are just as good!!

30-Minute Meal: Kielbasa and Broccoli with Pasta

Growing up, my mother worked (she still does) and managed to get home cooked meals on the table. (We did occasionally have takeout.) A few weeks ago I decided to give one her recipes a go, since it’s one of my favorites. I’ve seen my mom cook kielbasa a variety of ways but I really enjoy when she mixes it together with broccoli and pasta. While her recipe may not be the healthiest, it’s definitely easy and a great 30-minute meal to make during the week. If you’re looking for a dish to feed yourself over a couple of days or four people, give this one a shot

Cook Time: 30 minutes

Ingredients:

One kielbas

Pack of broccoli steamers

Half box of farfalle pasta

Olive oil

Garlic powder

Teriyaki sauce

Pepper

Instructions:

  1. Set the oven to 350°.
  2. Line a pan with aluminum foil and spray non-sticking cooking spray. Poke holes on both sides of the kielbasa and place into pan.
  3. Cook the kielbasa for 15-20 minutes.
  4. While the kielbasa is cooking, bring a large pot of water to a boil. Add half the box of farfalle pasta to the water and cook until done. (You can use another type of past if you’d prefer but I love farfalle.)
  5. After the kielbasa has cooked on one side, flip it over for another 10 minutes.
  6. Cook the package of broccoli steamers in the microwave at the recommended time.
  7. Once everything is done cooking, drain the pasta and coat with a little bit of olive oil in the pan. (This will help prevent the pasta from sticking together.) Add some garlic powder for season.
  8. Cut the kielbasa in to small pieces. Add the kielbasa and broccoli to the pan and mix together with the pasta. Sprinkle some teriyaki sauce and pepper over the food and mix again.

Now your dish is ready to eat! You can always go back and add more garlic powder, teriyaki sauce and pepper as you see fit. I’m horrible at measurements when I cook so I basically eyeball everything and taste along the way.

Kielbasa & Broccoli

Rant: The Overuse of Hashtags

Occasionally, my friends and I will discuss things that really piss us off (normal). I could probably have full on rants every single day if I tried, but for now let’s just leave it to once a week.

This week, I NEED to discuss how people overuse hashtags.

In the past two years, friends have expanded their use of social media to include not just Facebook. (LOVE it!) They’ve discovered the enjoyment of platforms like Twitter, Instagram and Snapchat.

But with these new social media accounts comes amateur hour. *rolls eyes*

Credit: Social Marmalade

Credit: Social Marmalade

I don’t mind seeing pics from your trips, what you’re eating or throwbacks (there are things but we’ll get to that in another post), but stop excessively using hashtags. Over the past couple of months, I’ve tried to understand the need of 10+ hashtags in one single post and am left scratching my head. Some are trying to gain new followers. But remember, QUALITY over quantity is best!

Personally, I try to use no more than 5 hashtags and they all relate to the picture. This week, I felt the need to beg everyone to calm it down. I get that you love what you posted, but be mindful that not everyone cares to see hashtags the length of a paragraph. And note, I will most likely unfollow you. #NoShame 😉

OK, that’s the end of this week’s rant.

Book Review: The Girl on the Train

The Girl on the Train Cover

Credit: Goodreads

A few weeks I finished reading The Girl on the Train and honestly it has really lived up to the hype. If you’ve been living under a rock the past couple of months, everyone is calling Paula Hawkins’ novel the next Gone Girl. I mean it’s been on the bestsellers list for weeks now!

While the story starts off slow and sort of confusing, Hawkins develops the complex character of Rachel Watson as she commutes every morning and focuses on one row of houses during her ride. Every morning, Rachel watches “Jess and Jason” as they live their lives, ironically a few doors down from her former home, until one day things change. From what she sees one morning then doesn’t another morning brings Rachel into an intense investigation and has everyone questioning who she is and what she wants. Due to excessive drinking and unreliable information, Rachel isn’t the model witness to help crack the case in this thriller.

It’s honestly very hard to write this review without giving up too much information. Hawkins’ writing style is very similar to Flynn’s style in Gone Girl  and she tells the story through the eyes of three women, leaving readers to occasionally scratch their heads. I couldn’t put the book down and was hungry for more with each page. I would recommend this book to anyone who has read Gone Girl or Reconstructing Amelia. Goodreads rating: 4 out of 5 stars

Live from New York…

…It’s the Saturday Night Live’s 40th Anniversary Special!

SNL 40Credit: SNL Facebook Page

Sunday night Lorne Michaels gave America quite the treat by bringing Saturday Night Live cast members (past and present) and notable celebrities together for an evening we won’t soon forget. To celebrate 40 years of laughter, memorable characters and sketches were brought back for the special occasion. Thanks to my mom, I was introduced to SNL in middle school and was definitely hooked. In my opinion, the early 2000s was definitely one of the best times to start watching as a new viewer. Cast members included Tina Fey, Amy Poehler, Jimmy Fallon, Tracy Morgan and countless others who’ve gone on to have successful television and movie careers. Now back to Sunday night…the special definitely made me laugh and I wanted to share some of my favorite scenes.

(*Note: We had trouble embedding some of the videos, but there are links.)

  1. Weekend Update

Since 1975, more than 20 cast members have anchored the Weekend Update desk, leaving behind their own mark. The 40th anniversary special brought Tina Fey, Amy Poehler and Jane Curtain back to the WU desk and it was AMAZING! I can’t lie, Jane’s crack at FOX News was so on point. In true Weekend Update form, the ladies made jokes about the special and invited others to pay tribute to some of their favorite SNL characters. Definitely my favorite part of the night!

  1. Opening with Jimmy Fallon and Justin Timberlake

Assuming that you don’t live under a rock, Jimmy Fallon’s friendship with Justin Timberlake shouldn’t be a surprise to you. For a few years now, Justin has stopped by the Late Show and Tonight Show to talk hashtags or rap a few classic songs with Jimmy. Their opening monologue Sunday night was a tribute to SNL catchphrases over the years with some special appearances from characters like Mary Katherine Gallagher and Debbie Downer.

 

  1. Celebrity Jeopardy

It wouldn’t be an SNL special without Celebrity Jeopardy. Will Farrell once again played Alex Trebek and was joined by Sean Connery (Darrell Hammond) and Burt Reynolds (Norm Macdonald). Darrell Hammond killed it and of course misread the categories, like “Who Reads” became “Whore Ads”. A few other characters like Justin Bieber and Matthew McConaughey popped up and added to this hilarious sketch.

 

  1. Tracy Morgan Tribute

As I mentioned before, Tracy was part of the cast when I started watching Saturday Night Live. Unfortunately, he is still at home recovering from the horrific car accident he was in last year. To make sure he was part of this epic night, Tina Fey and Alec Baldwin, two of Morgan’s 30 Rock cast mates, introduced a sketch from one of Tracy’s reoccurring roles, Brian Fellows. I honestly jumped with excitement since Brian Fellows is hands down one of my favorite SNL characters. Definitely YouTube his other Brian Fellows sketches, you won’t be disappointed.

  1. Wayne’s World

Wayne and Garth returned for another round of Wayne’s World and presented an SNL-themed Top 10 List. Along with listing Lorne at number two with a thank you for 40 amazing years, the duo named the SNL crew number one, because let’s face it, nothing would go on without them! Wayne and Garth even threw a few jabs at Kanye, who was in the audience. They let him know they think Beck is better than Beyonce.

 

Overall, the night had so many high points, I didn’t even mind the awkward lows. I can’t wait to see what Lorne and the crew have to offer over the next 40 years! If you missed the special, have no fear; NBC has posted it online in two parts (Part 1 & Part 2). What were some of your favorite moments from the special? Did you feel like anything was missing?